Bowling, Not just a game.

Joined Mr Clive, Gary, Pei Pei and Edwin (and his family) for a night a bowling at AMF Bowling at Irving. Half way through the game while struggling to keep a consistent performance at the lane, it suddenly dawn to me....

Playing bowling is like going through our daily life. In the game of bowling, to be able to score you got to get that "sweet spot", the right posture, the right positioning on the board, the right movement towards the line, the right aiming point (on the arrows or dots) and the proper release technique and swing of the arms. Now getting all the "Right" give the "Sweet spots" and that create good score and strikes. The problem is, how can I be consistent? I was hitting the mark most of the time in one game and missing the bulls eye several times in another. Its challenging to be consistent all the time and I guess I just need more practice especially my release technique.

The game of bowling is about consistency when you get the "sweet spot" so is our daily life. We got friends, girlfriends, family, wife/husband, our boss and our colleagues. How can me and you give all this people around us and in our life a good treatment and impression when we know that is often difficult to satisfy everyone cause its always easier to find fault in others than goodness. Like learning bowling intially and missing the mark, getting people to trust, appreciate and like you in the beginning is hard.

I think every person you met is like a different bowling bowl. When you knew the person long enough, its like understanding the weight and profile of a bowling ball and when you get along well with that person, its the "SWEET SPOT", getting the strike consistently all the time. Than came a different person, a different ball game and you got to figure out that "SWEET SPOT" all over again, sometime it take a long time, sometime the both of you click immediately, sometime its a disaster. There are times you can click with a certain boss, score point and get promoted but there are other time you just miss all the points with other boss and get a foggy future in the company

Figuring out a person "SWEET SPOT" is just the beginning. How do you maintain that CONSISTENCY all the time? Many times in a relationship, its all a bed of roses during courtship but a Pond that frozen after marriage. Funny thing is both party hit the 'SWEET SPOT' consistently during courtship and than after marriage, some kept missing the mark unconciously. What once was a favourite bowling ball have suffer wear and tear and that could well reason why the sweet spot changes. All that is needed is some readjust to to get that right spot again or do some polishing to restore its condition. Relationship need maintenance too just like a once beautiful bowling ball. Its better to maintain it well than repair it when its broken. The ball is in your court, your got control over it... are you going to strike or miss?

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