Lonely Ah Pek and the China Women

Few days ago, I chances upon an article in the Chinese newspaper about the tragic affair between a Singaporean Ah Pek and his newly wed Wife from China. Ah pek apparently met this China women while drinking at a Kopi shop. China women was extremely friendly with Ah Pek, nice affectional chat and the sudden proposal of Marriage which caught Ah Pek by surprise. Ah pek was of course a bit suspicious but decided to go "steady" with this China Women for a few months to learn if she is the one and of course to plan for the marriage in due time. Ah Pek was 66 years old and the pretty China women was 26 years old, a women at her peak.

Few months later, both were happily married, or was it? The first night of the newly wed was as shocking for Ah Pek as the time when the China Women propose for marriage, she refuse to copulate (a high class word for making love) with Ah Pek. This goes on for months and one day the China Women disappeared. Ah Pek is heart broken but he was a lucky old man, under the influence of the China Women, he nearly sold his flat and move to China with her. If not for his growing suspicion of his wife faithfulness and intend when she refuse to make love with him, things could be more tragic than a broken heart. In the mean time, China women living else where in Singapore happily with a citizenships that she should never have got in the first place.

Before anyone of you accuse Ah Pek of been a Ti Go Pek, just give you insight that he never into paid sex in Geylang or Batam. He was single all his life and don't have much friends around, probably most have croaked. Now man do get lonely sometimes and it become even more lonely as they age. The China women is just the wrong spark at the right time to cause a wild fire in any lonely, lack of attention and CPF rich Ah Pek life. Judging from the numerous news article about different Ah Pek with different China Women, one can only conclude a pressing social problem right here among the elderly.

Most of this Ah Peks are single or wife have passed away. The cause are mainly attributed to lack of attention and care to the Ah peks around us. Without attention and care comes lonely, frustrated Ah peks becoming easy preys for the affectionate and fake-caring vultures out there. Than there is also the shortage of proper education to make them aware of cheats and swindler out there who are just out for their hard earn savings and CPF pay-out. Lastly, the lack of chances in employment in Singapore job markets means Ah Peks might not have activites to engage in and always hang-out (like teenagers) in Neighbourhood coffeeshop or Shopping center.

My dad is a frequent vistor to Tao Payoh central where he meet up with all his old friends in their 50s and 60s, chatting over coffee and tea. There are many occassion in the past where pretty China ladies and Pei Du Ma Ma often approach their group to strike a "Friendly" chat. Its a good thing that his groups pretty closely bonded like Band Of Brothers and most of them have children who keep them busy with grand-children or committed wifes. There are some who nearly got hook away but with well-mean intervention from my dad and friends, they were advised to avoid this foreign invaders like plagues. Those China Ladies are still around and my dad do spot some familiar faces now and than but they have so far never come and pester the Band of brothers after many unsucessful attempts. Talk about ill intends....

I personally believe that to prevent another episode of "Ah Pek and China Women". The very first thing is to show attention by always talking cock with your old man and also make sure he is always active despite having no job at all. I always like to discuss news on TV and papers with my dad and also family issue, a bit like parlimentary session. Also, since he was out of job long long time ago, he have always been actively engaging in home improvement from Gardening to tending the aquarium plus the maintenace of the house. Grand-children are also very good companies for them when son, daughters and in-laws are always out for work. Although tending to the grand-children could sometimes be a headache (even for the experience), they do keep the elderly occupied and bring joy to them. In short keeping the mind and body occupied with activities is one sure way of ensuring that Ah pek never feel lonely and bored. Fillial Piety from the son and daughters is the best way to it and good family bonding through show of love and care, Ah pek usually wake up to the facts that they have more important decades long relationship to maintain than engaging in a fresh new, uncertain one with some young ladies who could easily be their daughter.

Now when our society have this Ah Pek who are almost impenetrable from the invasion of China women, they will be our society best solution to fight this social problem. This new Band of Ah Pek should actively seek out those left-alones Ah Pek (those no wife, no children or no relative or friends type) and help prevent them to be next on the statistics. By keeping the other Ah Pek company, proper advise and education and getting them to join in to the Band of Ah Peks activities like Karaoke, Drink Kopi, talk cock session, exercise, RC activities.... There will be an end to those tragic episode.

** Note: I have nothing against China women but I have something agains those (whatever country they are from) who just come here to prey on our Citizenship, our Ah Peks and their money. F*** off**